Saturday, 5 May 2012

what's in a name?


We have never been able to choose names for our children very quickly. I'm always surprised how many people decide on names from almost the minute they find out they are expecting (or even before), as I need to wait and meet the new babe before I can decide and even then I'm never sure! It seems really hard to bestow a name that they will have for the rest of their lives! 

Of course, when you have two boys already, does your third name have to match? Does it matter if the grandparents don't like the names you have chosen? We like names like Jack, Jake, Sidney & Charlie, I like George (my husband isn't as keen), but the name that we keep coming back to is Stanley. It kind of goes with the older two, Alfie and Ted, in a 'cap, whippet and pork pie' kind of way!

You can tell when someone doesn't like your name choice as there is a pause as they politely try and think of something positive to say. Grandma worries that "he will be teased at school" and one of the boys friends tells you their mum thinks it's a bit "random." Believe me when you are dealing with the hormones of a new mum any comments run the risk of bringing on floods of tears! 

My late mother-in-law really wasn't keen on the name Alfie saying "no grandchild of mine will have a 'barrow-boys' name" of course, to my husband and I, this in effect named him! Goodness knows where the comment came from as she certainly didn't have 'airs and graces' - but babies names really do bring out the strongest of opinions in people. 

So, the past few days we have been trying out the name Stanley and think it rather suits our newest little man, now we just have to choose a middle name! 

23 comments:

  1. Pah! *some people* need to learn it might take a while to grow on them but they will love it soon because they love him. Gorgeous name, lovely sibling set. Sleep well Stanley x

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  2. Stanley is a lovely name and suits a Bradshaw.. yes Stanley Bradshaw has an air of victorian author or explorer! Love it. I really liked the names Ned and Seth for Rufus, and people turned their nose up. In the end I went with Rufus as I loved it.. stuff what they thought! xx

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    1. I love the thought of author or explorer :0)

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  3. Lovely name! How much he has changed in just one week. He's gorgeous xx

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  4. It's a lovely name Emma. My little boy is Arthur Stanley so I guess I am a bit biased! x

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    1. Oh I love Arthur too - what a lovely name Arthur Stanley

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  5. Stanley is AWE.SOME.
    xxx

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  6. Well my eldest is a varient of Ted, and I'd have used Alfie if I had been able to have more babies & had a boy.

    As for Stanley - I love it - if it suits him go for it :)

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  7. Antonia Mullaly5 May 2012 at 20:01

    Stanley is a great name and he looks like a fine young man already!

    At least you're in time to register him for his birth certificate - some people leave it to the last minute *cough*

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  8. Stanley is a perfect name and suits him well. Go with your instincts and don't worry what anyone else thinks. It's a great choice.

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  9. My kids have a little 2yr old cousin called Stan (just Stan), and he is the cutest, coolest little dude. Love it :)

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  10. Great name. If our daughter Prudence had been a boy she would have been a Stanley. Although when we told our eldest daughter, who was ten at the time, of our choice she burst into tears saying you can't do that.

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  11. I love it. Stanley. Great name. And what a CUTIE PIE. My goodness, look at the strong handsome face and that hair! As a teacher though I immediately try to think of ALL the teasing possibilities like 'Flat Stanley' (a children's book) but that is the worst I can come up with...and if that's it then I think it's a winner! Kids will find reasons to tease no matter WHAT we name our children. I say if you keep coming back to it as a name, and you still like it then go for it!

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  12. Stanley is a wonderful name - he already sounds like a man of substance, a man who will know right from wrong and will say when he sees injustice...Perfect.

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  13. my nephews are Stanley and Edward {Ted} so yes! a lovely old name and one of character:
    he looks a real cutie x

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  14. I love the old fashioned names my youngest Granddaughter 5 weeks old is Charlotte Ivy and her mum is Frances , good names are eternal .

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  15. I know a two year old called Stanley - never Stan, it's lovely! Naming is a mine field. My daughter was ill after she was born and for some reason, in sleep deprived fear, I found it virtually impossible to name her. We did, and I still love the name, but for about a week afterwards, if anyone called her by her name I would cry! So don't worry about how your hormones are affecting how you are feeling!
    PS I dont think it matters what grandparents think - after all, they have already had the chance to name their children and now it is your turn.

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  16. A smashing name for such a handsome wee chap.

    Our eldest Barney was inspired when watching yet another New Order dvd (Woody's favourite band) Lead singer Bernard Sumner is nicknamed Barney and I suggested it ironically but we soon loved it. Luckily he loves the music now too!

    Most other Barneys we know are dogs but I did meet a heart surgeon at work recently with the same name so can't all be of the barking variety!

    Looks like you've found the perfect name, perfect.
    Stephx

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  17. My nephew is a Stanley, a lovely name and never mind what *some* people say.

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  18. We named our newest little boy Hugh. I wasn't sure at first but now I love it. Other people, well, they're not sure sure but I think it suits him. Stanley is a lovely name, as one poster said, "good names are eternal."

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  19. Congratulations on the Birth of Stanley he is gorgeous! I nominated your blog for a sunshine award as I've been reading for a few months now and just love your posts. The details are on my blog if you'd like to accept. Emma xx

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  20. Stanley is a great choice - goes with his siblings and your surname, and Stan for short is just as nice. I know people who just kept the names a secret then announced them, that way no-one dares voice an opinion!

    My good friend has a son called Stanley and a daughter called Edith. I think they go perfectly, like an old married couple.

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  21. All your boys have gorgeous names and I think Stanley is perfect!

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