Sunday, 6 September 2009

hold on to your loved ones...

my mother-in-law passed away on Friday evening, very quickly but peacefully. We are in shock and probably will be for a while yet. My husband, her only child is a rock and is busying himself with the practicalities that follow and answering so many phone calls! The worst thing is she lived in sheltered housing near us and we only have a week to sort her things out, a week to pack her life into three piles of "keep, recycle/pass on/sell or throw away", which I find a bit harsh. I think my approach will be to buy many plastic tubs, pack it away and deal with it in a few weeks when we are ready. After she died on Friday evening, my husband was told he could collect the 'body' the next day, so hard to hear her being referred to as a 'body' within minutes, don't you think?

We haven't been able to sort anything out in terms of funeral either as the hospital bereavement office, register office and solicitor to get the will are all shut at the weekend, so again more waiting! The boys are fine and appear not to be interested, even though we have told them what's happening, I think as she was in and out of hospital over Christmas, they are used to this and just think she will be back, especially with Alfie's nine lives theory!

It is a strange time and a time when we hold our loved ones just a little tighter. Thank you friends for all your good wishes and don't forget to hold your loved ones a little closer too x

28 comments:

  1. Thoughts are with you Emma x

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  2. i'm so sorry to hear that, sweetheart.. sending you all a big hug and some strength for the next few days and weeks xx

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  3. thinking of you all. We were in the UK this summer with the death of my husband's father and it is all a lot o a family and I wish you peace. A family sort of goes through a major arc of emotions when this happens and just stay strong for each other- hugs

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  4. I'm so sorry Emma. Much love to you all and I'm holding you in my thoughts xx

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  5. My thoughts are with you all. Big hugs from all at our home to all at yours

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  6. i'm sorry to hear your news... sending you and your family much love through this difficult time xo

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  7. i am so very sorry. thinking of you all at auch a sad time.

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  8. Sorry to hear this Emma. Sending love and coping vibes for you all x

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  9. So sorry Emma. My thoughts are with you all (((hugs))) xx

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  10. emma. i am so sending love to you and your family. i'm really sorry to hear that your mother in-law passed away.

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  11. so sorry to hear this... we had the same with my dear grandpa in February - he too was in sheltered housing - we packed all his personal items in boxes and waited until we were all together to sort through, remember, cry and just be together as a family.....
    take your time
    but i will say that the British Heart Foundation were completely amazing and so kind and sympathetic and collected all the large pieces of furniture that none of the family needed - knowing it would all be sold for a good cause made a little light shine amongst the sadness.
    my thoughts are with you all x

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  12. Oh Em, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Thinking of you all at such a difficult time unreal time. Em xx

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  13. I'm so, so sorry to hear this. Packing up her life will be hard but I think the plastic tub idea is a good one until you're more ready to deal with it.

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  14. So sorry to hear about your mother in law. Happy thoughts your way. xx

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  15. My thoughts are with you & your family.
    Love Sophie xxxx

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  16. So sorry to hear this sad news.

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  17. I am a new reader to your blog, just wanted to say I am sending you and your family lots of good thoughts and love.

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  18. Condolences to you and your family - what a horrible thing.

    x

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  19. So sorry to hear this - thinking of you and your family at this time xx

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  20. I have just found your blog. This is such awful news. Please accept hugs from a stranger who is thinking of you and your family at this horrible time. x

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  21. the burden is so heavy on the loved-ones who must now deal with the practicalities and paperwork that is so foreign when we are grieving. I hope you all all being loved and cared-for yourselves - you are in my thoughts.

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  22. I'm sorry to hear about your very sad news. Please take care. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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  23. So sorry to hear the news Emma, my thoughts are with you all at this sad time.

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  24. my husband (also an only child) lost his mother in February... it's so hard. we are thinking of you and your family. sending you prayers and comfort.

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  25. So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers being sent your way!
    Sara

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  26. SO sorry to hear about your family's loss. Hold them tight against you and don't rush into sorting out her belongings...as time passes we always have a better grip. Sending warm thoughts and positive energy in this time of loss and pain.

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  27. Blessings Emma! it is unfortunate that we are seemingly better supported to deal with practicalities than our emotions. Yes pack it away and go through things as feel right. it could be such a positive experience reminiscing through her things. you don't want to rush all that healing goodness.

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  28. oh dear. please know that i am thinking of you, your husband, and your boys.
    take the time you need away from here, come back only when you are ready.

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